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Romance is presented as the ultimate reward or the end of a journey, rather than the beginning of a partnership that requires work.
Similarly, romantic breakups or fights in children’s media (think Toy Story ’s Woody and Buzz fighting over Bonnie’s attention, which has subtextual jealousy) can trigger genuine anxiety. The child doesn't think, “Oh no, their romance is on the rocks.” They think, “Oh no, the friends are angry. The safe group is breaking.”
To write a believable child character interacting with a romantic plot, a writer must first understand real-world child psychology.
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However, there is still a tendency in romantic storylines to portray small children as either idealized and perfect, or as obstacles to be overcome. This can create unrealistic expectations and perpetuate negative stereotypes about parenthood, which can be damaging to couples who are struggling to balance their relationship with the demands of caring for small children.